More than four million women are living alone, according to data from 2012, and that number is constantly rising. Living alone is liberating and that’s probably the main reason why a woman decides to lead this way of life. The fact is that the only person you need to depend on is yourself, but there are as many downsides to it as there are good – not everyone is cut out for it. But, there’s nothing you can’t learn as long as you’re careful. The essential part is not to be unreasonably fearless, but you mustn’t cross that thin line and become paranoid about everything.
So, more and more single women each year are tempted to at least try to live by themselves for some time. If you’re single and successful, and you’re ready to become completely independent, here’s a shortened version of a textbook for all beginners in this area.
There’s nothing to be afraid of if you take all precautions
The first few months will probably be the hardest because there’re a lot of things to get used to. A certain period of time needs to pass so you stop jumping at every single unidentified sound you hear. Also, it will be difficult at night when you accept that fact that you’re all by yourself in the whole apartment. In order to avoid this period of adjustment, you should work on yourself to make it as short as possible and be reasonable about it – you’ve closed all windows, locked all doors, the oven and all other devices that could burn down the house are turned off, so there’s definitely nothing you need to worry about.
Change the locks the minute you move in
Chances are that you’re not familiar with the people who lived in your apartment before you, so you never know how much copies of your key there are and who has them. It’s not a big deal – you just need to take care of it as soon as possible. Don’t postpone it and pay a visit to any hardware store in your neighborhood – it’s as simple as that. As an extra precaution, you should think about installing a sliding door chain and if you’re driving, make enough time and money to install a car alarm.
Don’t be easy prey
Be careful when it comes to letting people know you’re living alone. You probably feel like shouting that from the top of a building, but that’s not a smart thing to do – you can never know what’s inside someone’s mind. When it comes to social media, make sure you don’t share too much info publically. There are other ways of being in contact with your friends or family than using social networks – your privacy comes first.
Learn how to protect yourself
When you decide to live alone, you must be aware of how vulnerable you look to an intruder. So, if you don’t want to be just one of the many helpless victims who are out there playing a lady in distress, you should take precautions to prevent all that. The smartest thing to do is to take some self-defense classes – a good instructor will show you how a possible attack could look like, so you don’t freak out if it happens and he or she will teach you how to react in those situations. Other than that, it’s not too bad if you carry a bottle of pepper-spray with you, just in case.
You’re the man of the house
When you’re all by yourself, you need to learn to act mature and stop calling your dad every time a light bulb needs to be changed. If you want to be prepared for any situation, you need to have proper tools – like a light aluminum ladder that won’t be heavy for you to move, a hammer and a drill – and make sure that you’re completely safe when you’re trying to fix or hang something. You’ll feel much better, stronger and more independent when you see how simple all those things are since you will realize that you don’t need anybody else but yourself to get them done.